She Thought Her Husband Was Not Romantic Enough

VALENTINE'S DAY THIS YEAR- (a guest post):
My husband works weekends and Valentine’s is coming up on Sunday and my birthday is the next day. Our church is doing a couple’s Valentines dinner on Saturday and I asked if he could get off.
Then after some deep thinking prompted by the Lord I realized how foolish this was.
Why would I ask him to use up one of his days off to go eat and stay up late so he would have to turn around and go to work the next day tired all so I can say I did something for Valentine’s Day. It was selfish and childish.
I began to really analyze the “why” behind my desire and found that I didn’t really want to go but felt pressured by worldly expectations and I was expecting my husband to be everything… that’s when the Lord really taught me.
EVALUATION OF MY EXPECTATIONS
I think so often that we women are deceived by the world telling us that we must be understood, our emotions justified and our wants met at every turn and any deviation from that means our lives are horrid and our husbands don’t love us.
How destructive this deception is. It creates a false reality that no man can live up to nor any woman can be satisfied. It’s a never ending cycle of disappointment and resentment.
I am ashamed to admit that it has taken 13 yrs of marriage to realize it’s time to step off that carousel and start living in reality. The Lord used our new church to teach this to me.
SHOULD MY HUSBAND BE "EVERYTHING?"
Is my husband my everything? Can he be everything, as in can he be or possess every facet of every man I’ve seen in a romance movie, I’ve read about in a Jane Austin novel or the husbands of my friends? Can’t I get everything in one package?
The answer is no! And that’s okay. That’s reality!!!
The truth is my husband is NOT romantic, he doesn’t plan fancy dinners, vacations or anniversary getaways. He isn’t a sharp dresser. He doesn’t drive nice cars or visit an expensive barber. He doesn’t give out verbal compliments or write love letters. He isn’t