why we broke up. what every Christian couple should know.

i have received COUNTLESS of messages and comments about this, with people going through similar and unsure of what the future holds. so we pray this helps anyone going through confusion, heartbreak, waiting, or wondering if restoration is even possible.

what we talk about:

✨ the reality of going on a break while still loving each other
✨ how spiritual immaturity
✨ why it was the best decision for both of us
✨ what it looked like to pray for each other even while apart
✨ awkwardness of reconnection
✨ how we knew it was time to get back together

and whilst i am so blessed for our love story, this isn't about us but about God’s grace, timing, and leadership over our lives.

00:30 - intro + where we’re filming from
01:11 - why we broke up for 9 months
04:30 - signs we weren’t spiritually ready for marriage
07:30 - how pressure to move fast made things worse
10:15 - who actually initiated the break?
12:30 - the importance of godly counsel in hard decisions
15:30 - what we did during the break to grow individually
17:30 - building strong community during singleness
20:00 - striving for perfection delayed our reconnection
23:30 - signs that told us we were both ready
25:00 - how we knew our break was temporary, not permanent
27:30 - red flags vs. healthy separation
29:30 - what we prayed for during our time apart
33:00 - when we finally reconnected and what changed
35:00 - how we learned to love without idolising each other
37:30 - openness, boundaries & preparing for marriage
40:00 - God’s timing and how restoration really happened
44:00 - final encouragement: submit your love life to God

💐 you are loved, redeemed, free, set apart, purposed, His.

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