How to support a loved one with depression

My husband has been very honest about his journey with depression. One of the number one DM’s I get is how to support a loved one with depression.

You have to first accept that depression is a sickness. It’s like cancer. You can’t tell someone with cancer to “get over it.” The same way with depression. You can’t tell someone who’s in a dark place to “get over it.”

Here’s what I’ve found helps me:
1. Don’t take it personal. Their depression isn’t a reflection of you. It doesn’t have anything to do with you.
2. Don’t take on their depression. I know it’s hard but don’t go to that low place with them. They don’t want to be in that dark place. Don’t join them there.
3. Pray, pray, pray. Daily declare that God heals your loved one in Jesus name.
4. Get therapy for yourself. You can’t pour out of an empty cup.
5. Hug your loved one often and just listen. Leave your solutions at the door. They just need someone to listen. Offer help as you feel led by the Lord. I’ve let my husband lead on getting support through therapy, etc.
6. If you notice your loved one is feeling low, invite them out of the house. Go for a walk, go get your nails done, go grab dinner, do something to get them out of their environment.
7. Take care of yourself through self care. Schedule massages, gym time, etc. You can easily lose yourself when you’re focused on a loved ones hard time.
8. Remember that this season is temporary. It won’t last forever.
9. Your spouse doesn’t need you to parent them, they need you to be friend. Laugh together, have fun. They don’t want to feel like a project, burden or a problem.
10. Ask God daily for wisdom. He made your loved one. He will show you what to do. ❤️

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